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“It’s not what you say, but how you say it.”
— Pamela Andrea, A Momily Bestowed upon Her Children (late 1970s onward)
“True. Except of course when it absolutely is what you said.”
— The Voice in My Head (1962-)
This page is currently just a placeholder, as my mom is still alive.
What my brother and I wrote about my dad was created immediately after he died, in a rush, and I felt intensely stressed about the timing… the need to produce an article for publication. I knew that he would want something irreverent and preferably scandalizing, whereas my mom will want something much more traditional, and in keeping with conventional genealogist standards.
So I have started to write about my mom elsewhere, but there’s a lot to unpack, and not all of what I have had to say so far is true, and much of it isn’t really memorial material.
But when the time comes (if I live longer than she does), at least I won’t be starting from scratch.